Did you know that intentional love can increase your productivity and improve your life in general?
Each of us was made in the image of a God that loves. However, because we don’t practice intentional love we get frustrated and so our productivity level diminishes and even our potential for having a richer life reduces and so we are not able to consistently impact people with the life of Christ we already have.
For the next 3 episodes of Like Jesus podcast, I want you to focus on the close relationships you have.
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What Causes Some Of Your Relationship Frustration?
- Fear of disrespect
- Fear that my best effort is not enough
For so many years, I had been frustrated in this area of loving people that are closer to me. I had always been afraid that if I do for them whats in their best interest they will ride on my love and I would be at their mercies. I would try my best but someone how it was never enough. A statement or a look on their faces was what it took to make me feel unappreciated. That was frustrating and it was even more frustrating that not only was it affecting the way I felt but also it was affecting my productivity. I wasn’t really able to fully live out God’s purpose for me, I wasn’t consistently impactful in my walk with the Lord. I know so many of my listeners feel this way. You try all your best to be the nicest person to people but what you get back is frustration and because of that you are not able to fully live your life to the fullest. It’s that bad.
I recently I got an ah ah moment when I read a short paragraph in a book by David J. Schwartz, The book is The Magic of Thinking Big. He said:
“One way to keep a positive attitude is to make sure you’re doing what you believe is morally right. When people do things they don’t feel good about – like lying to a significant other or taking from a friend without asking – it harbors guilt and erodes confidence. These negativities always show up in a bad attitude. Being happy and comfortable with your decisions, on the other hand, builds more confidence and therefore sustains your better moods”
Similar to Matthew 7:12 Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.
https://www.olusobanjo.com/thinking-good-of-others-help/
Due to societal influence, our minds become subject to what is right around for people around us and so we may even label a good action bad because someone said it is and so we start to feel bad about our actions. Though it may be a good action, the moment you think it isn’t good, guilt can set in and it erodes your confidence and you then start to feel bad. Intentional love would help you have an intentionally amazing life – in general.
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Wonderful, I enjoyed listening to it, though sometimes it can be hard to be intentional with our friends and family, especially when they are not receptive to it. Will start being practical with this
Thank you so much, Ann. You are right, it is challenging when people are not in the same mind space with us. I pray for supernatural grace for you as you take practical steps to love intentionally. I look fwd to seeing you here again esp. through the month 🙂
Thank you Olu,
I loved all of it and those examples are just like situations I have experienced or still experience! Thanks a lot for impacting our lives with such wisdom!